This week I dive into the biggest question in adoption:
Why? Why adopt? We've fielded that question a lot throughout the process. And still do, now that we have an adopted son.
That question is probably answered as many different times as there are different adoptive families; everyone's journey is unique, and their reasoning, while probably similar, is ultimately unique as well.
While I had always envisioned myself adopting children since I was a teenager, my husband was really the one that lead the charge for our family. And he did so with 3 main guidelines, if you will:
1. We felt God calling us to pursue adoption
2. We have no "right" to a child through adoption
We entered this process not knowing what, or whom, it would lead to. While you're invested heart & soul, there's no guarantees, no promises that it'll end with a slightly larger family in the annual Christmas card photo. God called us to say Yes and join Him in caring for children, and we trusted that He'd use us as He saw fit. We had several placements fall through, and every time were reminded that if nothing else, we had an opportunity, a responsibility, to pray for these families. If our lives only intersected for a fleeting moment in time, what were we going to do in that time? We were there for a reason, and if it was simply to pray for the preservation of + provision for their family, then that's what we would do. But still, as my husband reminded myself and others frequently...
3. We are in no way the 'rescuers' in this story
And make sure she knows she's a good Mom with a card or canopy :)
Part III coming next week; just in time for National Adoption Day. Stay tuned!