The paper trail begins.
Forms, training's, doctors visits, signatures, even our dog was required a visit to the veterinarian!
In a very administrative way, this was comforting to check off items on the page-long list of required documents; and yet that nagging feeling in the back of my mind was always present: what if it's all for naught?
Daily, hourly sometimes, I'd have to renew my mind and recenter on the truth that God led us here, and His purposes are never empty.
More interviews, in-home visits, and finally, thank the Lord, an approved Homestudy in the state of Colorado.
But come to find out, Colorado has more Adoption Agencies than the need requires. So once again, we're on our knees asking the Lord where to look, who to call, and how to make this decision. Straight back to researching other agencies out-of-state who had a greater need for adoptive families.
One state in particular had adoption laws that were not favorable to Birth Moms (thus, better for Adoptive families.) That didn't sit well with us so we crossed that entire state off the list. Other agencies had wait lists for their wait lists, full of hopeful couples waiting for a baby. That didn't sit well with us either. We're not in this for the sole purpose of growing our family. We wanted to go where we were needed. Where there weren't a ton of families lined up in the cue awaiting their lucky day. Now, don't get me wrong, we're not in any sense filling some role of rescuer swooping in, but we wanted to know that we were helping stand in the gap where it needed to be filled. Wherever the Lord wanted us to go, we'd go. We honestly believe that adoption should be the last resort for a child's forever home, but in many cases, it's just what's necessary, and a miraculous, beautiful thing.
A trip to the Pumpkin patch, much like any family event, simple or grand, prompted my mind to wonder: "Is this our family? Is someone missing? What will it look like next year?"
Still waiting. No call from Georgia. But hoping always that God's good work is being accomplished in every facet of this process.
You can see all about that in this blog post.
"The (first) Call"
How do you wrap your mind around that?! How can you possibly "guard your heart" as so many involved counseled us to do?
To make a long story short, that mama chose to parent her baby girl a few days after birth.
Heart wrenching? Yes.
Hope dashing? Yes.
But in an odd way, hope stirring? YES!
January + February 2016
And you know what? We celebrated those choices. Yes, through tears and heartache, of course. Every time, we opened our hearts to the possibility of those children becoming ours. But we also felt that before that, we had an opportunity, no a responsibility, from God to pray for these families. To stand in the gap in the only way we could: praying for the families to stay together if that's what He knew was best.
We celebrated when a father stood up and fought for the good of his family, and new baby. We celebrated when siblings weren't separated and when families were kept intact. We prayed for the provision these families will need for the years ahead raising children. And we waited.
And honestly, out of the several matches we'd been through, this one sounded the least likely to go through to adoption out of any.
So we prayed. For the Mama, for her baby, for the extended family, for the caseworkers, for our own hearts and our daughter's.
We realized, in looking back at the timeline, that between the time we were approved and "active waiting family" status in Georgia to the day our little man was born, was around 9+ months. Likely the very timeline of his Birth Mama's pregnancy.
Crazy to think about, certainly timing only the Lord could author and execute. But this one was right. Everything about the "case" was necessary, and right (if we can use such a term for such an incredibly intimate, life-changing event for everyone involved)
Back at that same Pumpkin Patch where the year before I was wondering if our family picture would ever involve another child, or children.
It sure does this year!
And we're still wondering the same question this year.
But one adoption at a time ;)
Stay tuned for the next part of this special Adoption Series: all about the WHY.
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